"When every single person around a young mother wants to tell her what to do and what not to do, why her child is crying and how she is feeding the child inadequately, then more confusion and hurt is caused rather than education or solution to the matter.
Babies will cry, just like we did at one stage and it is only correct to say a word of encouragement to the mother or remain silent. Interference into matters of feeding and upbringing can be the most annoying, depressing and stressful experience a young mother has. Each child is unique and not all solutions will be applicable.
Criticism of young mothers by their own family members or friends shows that they do not really care but simply want to prove they know better without actually providing a positive silent solution in the most loving manner.
No mother intentionally causes pain or grief to her baby but rather she is very keen on providing every bit of comfort."
-Mufti Ismail Menk-
What you just read above is a very common cause we turn our backs from. People don't think before they speak. They mock the mother by letting her know how much her child lacks in discipline, or how abnormal her child looks. All this without even realizing that your mocking her.
True you'll never know the real pain unless its about you. But this doesn't mean you cant be considerate. You yourself is a parent or will be a parent. How will you feel when your neighbor tells you "I saw your kid with long hair dudes, maybe he is using drugs too" or " Look how thin your child is, she looks like a branch" or "what terrible grades your child brought this term, my Lara brought all As" or "You better do this and that than doing that (like me, yay I'm so great, notice me) SIGH SHEESH YA'LL!
Maybe people don't know what they are doing, maybe the "know it alls" doesn't even know what's right and what's wrong. I just hope this will be a good knowledge to have or more of a food for thought.
And why am i writing about this topic? Well in my opinion our mothers have put up a lot with these "know it all" (s) who bug into every single motherly business they do in the wrong way. I know i have been a cause of that for my mother, she dealt with a lot of them and i thank my mother for coping up with all of them so well and taking care of me her way :) Thanks mom.
So let us all be more considerate and instead of showing every bad out of everything comfort the person you care about. Compliment her, support her and help her in the most less annoying way you can :)
May Allah guide us all to the right path :)
Peace!
